tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post7658323767584750183..comments2023-10-06T11:13:04.662-04:00Comments on We Heart Ethiopia: Ups & EccchsTam and Kai - NYChttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06242084200309834343noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-51480301217438400112010-02-03T20:14:04.549-05:002010-02-03T20:14:04.549-05:00I love this community.
Thank you all for respondin...I love this community.<br />Thank you all for responding so honestly and sharing your opinions, personal experiences and for just being genuine. Much appreciated!Tam and Kai - NYChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06242084200309834343noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-18824552467114122692010-02-03T17:44:55.546-05:002010-02-03T17:44:55.546-05:00I don't think that a name being given by a pol...I don't think that a name being given by a police officer necessarily has to be a negative - I know that often a lot of thought goes into those names! Forgive me if this comes out wrong (v tired!) but if a child is abandoned, then being found and processed *IS* a part of their history. It's a painful part, but not one that we can make go away by renaming. (I'm really sorry if that sounds snarky - it's not meant to! I know you already know this!) But it's something that baby will have to face at some point as he grows up and while it's not as 'nice' as the caregiver part of their story, it's equally real. Deciding to rename *just* because the name was given as part of an abandonment history could possibly be seen as trying to rewrite the story. I'm not saying you need to keep the name! For us ... we decided that if a name was given by a birthparent, we would definitely keep it as a first name, and if given by someone else, we would just use our judgement when the time came - based on the name rather than the namer. Worked for us. Good luck - naming is really, really tough!! There are no easy answers.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09352341442556433375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-28097521406153353282010-02-03T17:12:42.369-05:002010-02-03T17:12:42.369-05:00Sorry for skewing the average!
As far as the name...Sorry for skewing the average!<br /><br />As far as the name goes, we were faced with that decision. It came as a surprise to me too that they are named by the police and not a caregiver. I never really thought of that scenario and I'm a little saddened by it. I really have grown to like our little girl's name quite a bit, but we do not want her having to explain her whole life how she got her unique name. I feel like we just can't use it as her first name so we are keeping it as her middle name. It's part of her history, and when I see her, the name just fits. We will be giving her another first name that is used in Ethiopia.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15808292194849808442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-25534900281241060672010-02-03T14:01:28.670-05:002010-02-03T14:01:28.670-05:00Tam,
Once you hear their name and I agree with He...Tam, <br />Once you hear their name and I agree with Heidi, you'll know if it feels right...Trust me!!! It doesn't matter if a police officer or a caregiver names them...We were set on Jordyn for our little girl. Once we heard her first and middle name and the meaning, we knew that God had named her...We just added Jordyn to the end of her name...When your call comes and you hear the name you will know...It will all fall into place...AprilMhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15666727908307352796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-70620902785854970872010-02-03T11:50:39.478-05:002010-02-03T11:50:39.478-05:00Such a good discussion going on here! Thanks for b...Such a good discussion going on here! Thanks for bringing up the topic because I had wondered about that as well. I have been thinking about names a lot actually and the best way to incorporate their Ethiopian name. Heidi, in her infinite wisdom, is probably right about once you hear their story then the direction you need to go will probably become more clear. I know people who have picked a name for their child and then met him/her and changed their mind or felt they were so attached to the Ethiopian name that they didn't change it. I LOVE Heather's idea of incorporating their Gladney caregiver's name. So sweet. C'mon boy referrals!!! Hugs, Emily<br />PS - So jealous you met Cyndi Lauper. I was rockin out to True Colors the other day on the way to work. love her.The Bustershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04997732379617645016noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-19627023524414157522010-02-03T10:57:16.125-05:002010-02-03T10:57:16.125-05:00I agree on not necessarily keeping it, but I think...I agree on not necessarily keeping it, but I think he could still find comfort in that name. I think there will be more than one part of our babes' story that someone could paint as negative, and this is just another thing that you would have to make a positive. Not named by a stranger, but by someone who was able to give him help and comfort when he needed it. And it will still be the name that all his loving caregivers called him with affection.<br /><br />Maybe you could use the name of the place he was born or something?<br /><br />Ultimately feel like Heidi said...you'll know what to do when you see him and know his story!The H Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02229635034098106936noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-63211823128731485752010-02-03T10:12:35.190-05:002010-02-03T10:12:35.190-05:00wow. I missed the last conference call but have no...wow. I missed the last conference call but have not heard that before. I think I would have the same reservations as you. Maybe giving him the name of his Gladney nanny would make more sense in that case? The person that loved and doted on your boy until you could come to Ethiopia.<br />Food for thought for sure. Thank you.<br /><br />Cyndi Lauper! GIRL. love love love her! That is awesome. I remember seeing her in concert back in the 80s. I made myself a skirt out of a black trash bag and had tights I altered so one leg was green neon and the other pink neon. My parents thought I was seriously crazy.:)heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03896327317844246312noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-105079438412832561.post-70736804766036790382010-02-03T08:08:39.609-05:002010-02-03T08:08:39.609-05:00Don't despair, remember there were two familie...Don't despair, remember there were two families who got referrals this past month who waited an unusually long time which would skew the average. Still probably better to set your expectations longer but things will start moving again soon! You are ALMOST THERE!<br /><br />As for the abandoned name situation, I agree that there is no need to keep the name given by the police officer if it doesn't feel right. I haven't seen many abandonment cases but this has definitely been a consideration for those who have been in the situation. Keep an open mind and trust your instincts - you'll know what to do when you learn his history and see his little face.<br /><br />I miss you! Hoping to find a way to get into the city soon!! Leaving for three days in PA today, blah!Heidihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05855145567035760634noreply@blogger.com